Thursday, October 15, 2009

Apology

Time? Where does it go? I feel like I am a chicken running around with, well, you get the idea.

My apologies for not posting AND for not reading YOUR blogs! And, it doesn't look like anything is going to slow down anytime soon.

Here is something that I have read before, in fact I think it was part of a class that I have taken not once, but twice. As glaringly obvious as the answers to these questions are, you would be amazed at the number of times that I have been asked the exact same questions!

The one that I am actually looking forward to, with TWO Asian daughters is: "are they sisters?" - let's see - I am the mom, these are my children. Gosh - I guess they are! Ha! I know what they really mean is are they biological sisters, but come on - get real!

ANSWERS TO DUMB QUESTIONS PEOPLE ASK OF ADOPTIVE PARENTS...

Some answers for those stupid ??s

Unreal...Q- How much did she cost?

Smart Answer (SA)- All my heart.
Educational Answer (EA)- Buying children is both illegal and unethical. If you're interested in knowing more about gov't fees and donations for someone you know that's adopting, I'd be happy pass on my agency's website to you.

Q-What is she?

SA- She looks human to me.
EA- Do you mean what is her ethnicity? She is Chinese.


Q-Why China when there are children in the USA that need homes?

SA- Is that where you're adopting from? Oh, you're not adopting? I just thought you might be since you're so interested in making sure the children in the good ole USA are taken care of.
EA- China was the right choice for us at this time for many reasons.


Q-Are you going to tell her she's adopted?

SA- Seriously? Have you even looked at us?
EA- It will be pretty obvious. Besides, I want to share her adoption story with her.


Q- Are you her real Mom/Dad?

ONLY ONE ANSWER- YES!!!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

Boy did this post resonate with me Donna! :) When we say we're adopting again, I've been given the comment alot lately "Great, so you'll have 2 of your own and 2 from China". Ugh! It's hard to educate well meaning people, but I am thrilled to have 4 "of my own" and I'm excited for your little miss to be all yours as well. Praying for you guys as you await TA! Hugs, Sarah H.

Jean said...

Great post- great answers!!

Don't worry about not posting or visiting we all go through the ups and downs, the busy and not so busy times of life, adoption and family! We all understand!

Praying your TA arrives soon!!